Handling The Entities Involved In A Sick Marriage
There are people who enter the marital institution with the anticipation of marital problems. This sounds strange but is true. There are people, who get married with wrong or temporal motives such as winning a business contract, defrauding the partner, getting a travel document, simply getting MRS attached to their names, and so on. Such people get married, consciously or unconsciously anticipating marital sickness in the course of the journey.
However, majority of marital sicknesses experienced today were never expected, anticipated or planned for. Those undergoing these types of marital sicknesses should understand that there are entities involved in a sick marriage. Every marriage that is approved by God but is presently sick has the capacity to receive healing and a turn-around when the entities involved in the sickness are properly handled. If your marriage is presently sick, I declare by the power of the resurrected Jesus Christ that by the time you finish reading this piece, your marriage shall receive divine visitation in Jesus name.
Who are the entities involved in a sick marriage?
1. GOD ALMIGHTY WHO DOES NOT DESIRE SICKNESS IN MARRIAGE: “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you expected end” (Jeremiah 29:11).
“Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health, even as thy soul prospereth” (3rs John 2).
“Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning” (James 1:17).
Are you already blaming God for your marital sickness? The summary of the above scriptures is that it is not the WILL of God for your marriage or anything about you to be sick. What you need to do to this entity called GOD in your marriage, is to believe he owns your life. Believe he is the originator of marriage and therefore, has the ultimate formula for a healthy marriage. Believe that your marriage cannot work without God (John 15:5). Accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and personal saviour. Then, accept his Lordship over your marriage. If you do not allow the Lordship of Jesus Christ over your marriage, marital sickness will persist.
2. YOU: If your marriage is sick, the second entity involved in that sickness is you. Now, I assume you do not in anyway, desire a sick marriage. If this is the case, then, do not be comfortable with the sickness in your marriage. Jesus said: “Verily, I say unto you, whatsoever ye shall bind on earth shall be bound in heaven: and whatsoever ye shall loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven” (Matthew 18:18).
Do everything to fight the sickness in your marriage, complying with God’s rules. Avoid mindsets and actions that attract sickness to your marriage. If you perceive your husband or wife as just any other man or woman outside, rather than a part of you, you will surely attract sickness to your marriage. If you offer respect to an opposite sex outside, more than to your spouse, you are attracting sickness to your marriage. If you surround yourself with friends and associates that have scores to settle with people of the opposite sex and you work faithfully with their counsel in relating with your spouse, you are attracting sickness to your marriage.
Words are spiritually powerful. If you use your own words to nullify the positive prophetic prayers that were rendered during your marriage ceremony or wedding; if you curse or insult your spouse, even in public, you are attracting sickness to your marriage. If you decide to put Biblical instructions aside in relating with or dealing with your spouse, then, you have taken up arms against God. You are attracting sickness to your marriage. The entity called YOU must behave well and do the right things in line with the word of God so that marital sickness can disappear.
3. THE DEVIL: From the day you married your spouse, the devil has been doing everything to ensure that your healthy marriage gets sick. In fact, while you were making your marital vow and receiving marital prayers that day, he was busy saying: “Let me see how all these prayers will work. I will ensure the marriage falls sick.”
Jesus Christ already told us that the thief (devil) comes to kill, steal and destroy but Jesus came to give life in abundance (John 10:10). Therefore, I command every dying aspect of your marriage to receive abundant life right now in Jesus name!
Stop seeing your spouse as the devil in your marriage. The devil behind, is responsible for marital sickness. So, how do you handle this entity called devil? “Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you” (James 4:7).
How do you handle the entity called DEVIL? “Be sober, be vigilant: because your adversary the devil as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour” (1st Peter 5:8).
“Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you” (James 4:7).
Resisting the devil is done by exercising authority in the power that Jesus Christ has given to you. We wrestle not against flesh and blood but against principalities and powers and spiritual wickedness in high places (Ephesians 6:12).
Fight the devil on your knees through prayers done by faith. Confronting a lady in public for trying to entice your husband to sleep with her may not change anything. Pray against the spirit of uncontrolled lust that has made your husband to start dancing to the song of the strange woman by engaging her in ungodly conversations both before and behind you. The heart of everybody, including kings like your husband is in the hands of God. Enquire from your husband to know what he desires in a wife that you are not doing, so that you prayerfully increase your shower of love for him.
As a husband, complaining to everybody about your wife’s misbehaviours may not cure the sickness. It is the devil that has done this. Pray against the demon of disobedience or arrogance that has taken over her. Resist the devil and he will flee from you. That is how to handle the entity called the devil. Persistent, faith-laced warfare prayers will do it.
4. THE SICKNESS: Why is it that many marriages have one form of sickness or the other? The answer is simple. The entity called SICKNESS does not naturally like to leave any marriage or anybody. Sickness likes to reside in an abode that it considers comfortable or that welcomes it with bates like sin, unbelief, ignorance of God’s word, carelessness, spiritual dryness, etc. That is why it seems as if it is normal for a couple to have a conflict that results in communication breakdown or malice bearing. It is not normal. It is a marital sickness that could lead to death in form of divorce, separation or even murder.
Some people think and have come to believe that it is normal for one party in a marriage to indulge in adultery. This is a very dangerous ailment that can kill such marriage. It may seem as if one party in a marriage defrauding the other is okay. It is a marital sickness planted by the devil. When it is an in-law that dictates to a man what happens in his home, it is a marital sickness. When you always create opportunity for quarrel between you and your mother-in-law or father-in-law, your marriage is sick. When your husband makes a lot of money and spends the bulk of the money on drunkenness and womanizing, leaving you and your children to suffer unnecessarily, that is marital sickness.
If you have a sick marriage however, there is good news for you. You can eject the sickness that is residing in your marriage. The owner of a house has the power to determine the tenant that stays and the one to eject. Your marriage belongs to you and not to sickness. You have the power to eject sickness from your marriage. How did I know? Jesus gave you “power against unclean spirits, to cast them out and to HEAL ALL MANNER OF SICKNESSES AND ALL MANNER OF DISEASES” (Matthew 10:1).
Listen! It takes the combination of humanity and divinity to conquer sickness and fulfill destiny. God has a part to play. You have a part to play. For instance, God sees your heart and hates it when you doubt his capabilities. He expects a stubborn dependence on him for solution instead of sharing your faith in him with other gods by running from one fetish priest or prayer house to the other for solution and indulging in practices that God hates. If you do not play your part in the fight against marital sickness, you may not conquer.
Therefore, refuse to accommodate sickness in your marriage because it was not part of the original plan. Do not surrender and say “well, no wife can stop her husband from cheating on her.” It is not true. But remember that it is not a physical battle. So, go on your knees and pray out the spirit of adultery that has held your spouse captive. You may think prayer does not work because the result is in your estimation, taking time to show up. That is the doubt challenge. Stop doubting God.
It is not compulsory that you exchange words with your nagging wife and quarrel into malice bearing. Wasting of scarce resources on sinful lifestyle after suffering to generate the money, is not of God. If you are born again, take advantage of the word of God, the promises and authority that Jesus Christ has given to you. Go on your knees and seek the face of God. Cast out the sickness that is troubling your marital relationship.
In the name of Jesus, I decree that as you cooperate with God to cast out the sicknesses troubling your marriage, every form of marital sickness will disappear. I declare abundant health upon your marriage in Jesus name.
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Pastor Albinus Chiedu