The Fun From Illicit Sex

Illicit sexual intercourse (i.e. sexual pleasure that is illegal and hated by God such as fornication, adultery, rape, homosexuality and lesbianism) look very sweet. In fact, to those involved in any of them, there is pleasure in them.
The pleasure is so momentary that there is always a desire for more, almost immediately after each encounter. Once an individual is caught in the web of this trap, such individual is under captivity and is being held hostage by Satan.
What I am saying here may not be understood by such individual because there is already a spiritual blindness. Spiritual blindness entails abnormal reasoning as a result of a veil covering the sanity of the mind.
Right from the first incident in the history of illicit sex, it has always produced negative and destructive results. The funny thing however, is that the person under captivity in some cases, persists in the act amidst unnecessary suffering. This is why the man or woman that contracted disease through adultery or fornication continues in the act, rather than seeking God’s mercy and medical cure for the disease.
You are keeping a mistress outside your marriage. The woman keeps duping you, publicly insulting you and giving you all kinds of problems. Yet, you continue to maintain the sinful and stressful relationship.
You are having an affair with your maid. She is doing everything to destroy your ‘hard-earned’ wife and children. Yet, you don’t see any reason to end the satanic relationship.
As a married woman, you are using your husband’s hard-earned resources to maintain a strange male sin partner outside, while your husband and children languish in hunger and the children drop out of school. Yet, you still feel that all is well.
As a married woman, some other strange man somewhere beats you all the time and treats you like an orphan because he is sleeping with you and gives you money. Yet, you are okay with such lifestyle.
As an unmarried lady, various kinds of guys are having sex with you and giving you money and you see this as a good lifestyle. As a bachelor, you are having sex with all manner of ladies and you even see it as enjoyment.
The beginning of solution to any problem is to first identify the problem and admit that there is a problem. The examples of Satan’s captives that I have listed so far, make the heart of any sane spiritual mind to bleed.
“Do you see a man wise in his own eyes? There is more hope for a fool than for him” (Proverbs 26:12)
“For a harlot is a deep pit and a seductress is a narrow well. She also lies in wait as for a victim and increases the unfaithful among men” (Proverbs 23:27)
“Now, Samson went to Gaza and saw a harlot there and went in to her. When the Gazites were told, Samson has come here, they surrounded the place and lay in wait for him all night at the gate of the city. They were quiet all night, saying: ‘In the morning, when it is daylight, we will kill him’ (Judges 16:1-2).
The destiny of the great Samson became troubled the moment he got involved in sexual immorality. A harlot is a deep pit and lies in wait for a victim. Must you be this victim?
As you read this piece sir, maybe you are lodged in a hotel for one reason or the other. If you are involved in sexual immorality, you are already under Satan’s captivity. You need God’s salvation and deliverance.
Until you repent and surrender your heart to Jesus Christ, your success and protection is no longer guaranteed because you have left God’s presence and gone under the evil umbrella of Satan.
“Don’t you know that when you offer yourselves to someone to obey him as slaves, you are slaves to the one whom you obey-whether you are slaves to sin, which leads to death, or to obedience, which leads to righteousness?” (Romans 6:16 NIV).
“Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, ‘The two will become one flesh.’ But he who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with Him” (1st Corinthians 6:15-17).
You are either with God or with Satan. There is no standing at the middle. Your loyalty is either to the god of this world or the Almighty God.
“Do you see a man (or woman) wise in his own eyes? There is more hope for a fool than for him” (Proverbs 26:12)
“And the lords of the Philistines came up to her (Delilah) and said to her. Entice him and find out where his great strength lies and by what means we may overpower him; and every one of us will give you eleven hundred pieces of silver (Judges 16:5).
The ‘sweetness’ in sin is a catalyst for destruction. Illicit sex is one ladder to destiny destruction. Sexual sin partners have always been and will always be betrayers and Satan’s agent of destiny destruction.
“For a harlot is a deep pit and a seductress is a narrow well. She also lies in wait as for a victim and increases the unfaithful among men” (Proverbs 23:27)
Harlots are not on their own. They are on assignment, to pull you out of God’s purpose for your life. God did not send you into this world just to come and waste away in the sin of sexual immorality.
As for you female prostitute who stands on the highway, sometimes at night, waiting for a stranger of a man to sleep with you and give you money, remember that ritual killers are all over town now. A stranger takes you into a hotel room or his bedroom alone, and you are smiling sheepishly.
You that calls yourself a night crawler, leave your family at night and drive your car into town, looking for what may not be looking for you, are you sure you love yourself?
“Do you see a man (or woman) wise in his own eyes? There is more hope for a fool than for him” (Proverbs 26:12)
The devil is a liar and father of all liars (John 8:44). For instance, devil tells you that God helps those who help themselves. Many people even think it is in the Bible. Lie. It is not in the bible. If you can help yourself, then you don’t need Jesus. Jesus said in John 15:5, “…without me, you can do nothing.”
There are many wrong notions the devil has created about sex. Through this, he is manipulating people’s lives, especially in this era of technology. He might have told you and you believe that everybody is having sex indiscriminately. This is a big lie. It is not even possible. It is his desperation to destroy you that has created this impression that everybody is doing evil. It is not true.
Satan might have told you that sex is the only evidence of love. This is another lie. A prostitute cannot be in love with all the men sleeping with her at various hotels. Someone can have sexual intercourse with you regularly without any iota of true love. It is all lust.
Another lie from the devil is that a good sex could mean a good spouse. Sex is a very powerful force but it is not strong enough to make a marital relationship work if other critical factors are missing from it. Character plays a more important role in making a marital relationship work. The character of a person cannot be accurately measured or judged by how good or bad the person is in bed. A sex-driven relationship is originated by lust and gives blindness to the one who is all out just to satisfy lustful desires. When you are involved in it, you bluntly refuse to see the weaknesses and character flaws of your sexual partner because the pleasure of sex has taken over your faculty of judgement. A sex-driven relationship is self-centred and selfish. The moment you cease to derive pleasure from the sex, the relationship crumbles and your sexual partner looks out for another person who could possibly perform better in bed. All he/she knows about you is how good you are in bed and this is the criteria by which he/she measures your person. Your worth as a human being should be measured by values like integrity, honesty, vision, diligence, hard work, love, commitment and so on. Judging you by your sexual ability reduces you to the level of a prostitute.
The devil might also have told you that it does not matter who you have sex with. This is a big lie. He could also have encouraged you by saying that sexual sin can be forgiven like any other sin. This is true but issues at stake go beyond God’s forgiveness. Why deliberately expose yourself to dangers of terminal disease contraction, incurrence of a damaged womb in attempted abortion, unwanted pregnancy, food poisoning and so on?
Many young people have also been made to believe that having sex with someone is the first step into marital relationship. This is lie from the devil. The correct process is this. When I fall in love with someone, that is the first step. Based on my love for the person and to prove that I truly love the person, I will marry the person. This is the second step. After marriage, I now have a license to have sex with the person. So, it is love, marriage, before sex and not the other way round.
If you are under the bondage of sexual sin, God can set you free through the power of his word.
“For the grace of God that brings salvation has appeared to all men, teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously and godly in this present age” (Titus 2:11-12).
“If ye abide in me, and my words abide in you, ye shall ask what ye will, and it shall be done unto you” (John 15:7).
If you allow Jesus Christ to possess (intoxicate) your heart, much more than footballers and football matches (for those who are football fans); the word of God will begin to flow in you. The fear of God and desire to obey his word takes over. The kind of people you accept as your intimate friends will change. Then, illicit sex automatically becomes unattractive to you.
Are you legally married and you currently have sex-related challenges in your marriage? It can be fixed just like any other problem. Meanwhile, you can place an order for a copy of the book, MAKING YOUR MARRIAGE WORK by Albinus Chiedu.
Your marriage shall be a blessing and a testimony in Jesus name.

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