Limitation Of Evil Access To Your Marital Relationship
Contrary to the belief of many people, Satan is not everywhere every time. God is omnipresent and omniscient. He sees and knows everything. Satan goes to and fro. So, sometimes, he is not in operation at a particular place.
“The thief cometh not but to steal, kill and destroy. I come that they might have life and that they might have it more abundantly” (John 10:10).
“And the Lord said, Simon, Simon, behold Satan hath desired to have you that HE MAY SIFT YOU AS A WHEAT. But I have prayed for thee, that thy faith fail not…” (Luke 22:31-32).
God and Satan are enemies. So, from the day you imagine getting married in this world, you have started a journey into a warfare engagement. Every living soul is loyal to either of the parties. However, God, being supreme has placed so much limitation on Satan so that he can only have access to operate in your premarital or marital relationship if you grant him permission. If you are a born again Christian, Satan’s capacity to access your premarital or marital relationship is very limited. You can grant him permission to access it through YOUR THOUGHTS, YOUR KINDS OF RELATIONSHIP, YOUR WORDS and YOUR CONDUCTS. Ensure that your “faith fail not” because that will open the door of access to him.
“Be sober; be vigilant because your adversary, the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour” (1st Peter 5:8).
Now, when he attempts to infiltrate your relationship and you refuse to grant access, he leaves, and comes back later, another season, to try again. That is the way he operates. How did I know?
“And when the devil had ended all the temptations, he departed from him (Jesus) for a season” (Luke 4:13). He will keep coming back to try again.
- YOUR THOUGHTS: Satan is referred to as the Devil. Devil means Doer Of Evil. You can grant him permission to tamper with your marriage by allowing him to engage your mind. His power is limited if he cannot engage your mind. This is why Romans 12:2 says you must keep renewing your mind to know the WILL of God per time.
In this matter of mind engagement, Satan is no respecter of spiritual titles, age or church. I hear people say things like “Look at so and so Pastor or Prophet. His marriage has crashed,” Satan can come to anybody with a seemingly good thought. Once you embrace it, you have given him access. It is not every good thought that is a godly thought. For instance, the thought of having premarital sex as part of courtship to know the sexual performance capability of your suitor looks like a good thought. Unfortunately, it is a very ungodly thought and a license for Satan to ruin your marital future.
The thought of committing or aiding an abortion resulting from fornication in order to cover the act’s discovery from your fellow church members and maintain your position in church is a good idea. However, it is a very ungodly thought because it increases your sin by adding murder, hypocrisy and deceit to fornication. When you do it, you remove Satan’s limitation of access to your marital destiny.
The thought of hiding your past relationship and their outcomes such as removed womb, child outside wedlock and exp-lover covenant from your potential spouse or legally married spouse is a good thought. However, it violates the openness and transparency rule in marriage and positions your relationship for Satan’s possession..
In this instance, transparency and openness may not be comfortable or convenient but God is not as committed to your convenience as much as he is committed to fulfillment of his purpose in your life. Satan’s capacity to toil with your marital relationship is limited. Don’t give him the access with your ungodly thoughts.
If you are not selfless as a married person, you are arrogant. If you are proud, you are God’s enemy because “God resisteth the proud and gives grace to the humble” (1st Peter 5:5b).
“Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God” (Ephesians 5:21).
If your arrogance is causing problems in your marital relationship, you are actually inviting Satan to take possession. Stop that thought of “a whole me”. There is nothing whole about you if you cannot submit yourself to compliance with the word of God.
Each time you doubt the word of God, you break Satan’s limitations to accessing your marriage. When you say to your spouse: “Now, let me keep the Bible aside and handle you my own way”, you are doubting God’s capacity to resolve the crisis. The devil celebrates because his limitation has been broken.
Fear is a torment. When you allow Satan to plant fear in your mind, you have broken his limitation in your marriage. “God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a
sound mind” (2nd Timothy 1:7). When you engage in a fear–driven relationship, you break the devil’s limitation of access to your marital life and destiny.
When you harbour offence committed by your spouse against you, you are inviting the devil. Unforgiveness is a very big license for Satan’s access into your marriage. As long as that offence is not forgiven, Satan is in charge and stagnation sets in. It means that any prayer rendered by the person that refused to forgive is a wasted effort.
“And when you stand praying, forgive if you have ought against any; that your Father, also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses. But if ye do not forgive, neither will your Father which is in heaven forgive your trespasses” (Mark 11:25-26).
Thought of envy against your spouse is demonic. If you are envious of your spouse or competing with him or her on achievements, you are inviting Satan to rule or ruin your marriage. When you do things like hiding your actual income or salary figure, building a personal house somewhere without his or her knowledge and so on, you are breaking Satan’s limitations to accessing your marriage.
Any day you imagine anything that contradicts God’s word about your marriage, you are giving Satan access to that marriage. Don’t imagine that someday, your wife will take your children and run away. Don’t imagine that someday, your husband will leave you for another woman. Most of these imaginations are from Satan. Some come from too much addiction to social media. Once you buy such imaginations that contradict God’s word and nature, you lose the battle.
“For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty through God for pulling down of strongholds; CASTING DOWN IMAGINATIONS, and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity, every thought to the obedience of Christ” (2nd Corinthians 10:4-5).
- YOUR RELATIONSHIPS: There is a spiritual seal on your marriage to your spouse when you fulfill the marriage rites. If today, you are living with someone as husband and wife without fulfilling marriage rites, there is no marriage and Satan is positioned to sift both of you as shaft. As a man, you have been living with a lady for years. You have even had children. No marriage rites was ever performed. May dear, you are merely cohabiting. Your so-called marriage has no divine cover. Go and pay the bride price, or some other requirements, depending on your place of origin. Then, go for church blessing of your union. That is the right thing to do.
Satan is constrained from infiltrating your marital relationship. But you remove the constraint when you commit adultery after official marriage. When before marriage, you indulge in premarital sex, you give Satan an upper hand in your marital destiny.
Samson did not understand these deep things. That was why he permitted Satan to succeed in the Delilah disaster. Joseph understood these things very clearly. He knew the limitations of Satan’s access to his destiny and how that access can be broken if he offends God. He asked Portifer’s wife: “…how then can I do this great wickedness and sin against God?” (Genesis 39:9b). Nobody could have known what transpired but Joseph’s leadership destiny could have died. If he did not go to prison, how would he have been taken to palace to lead Egypt? Don’t give Satan access to your marriage by indulging in adultery.
- YOUR WORDS: Satan has a limited access to your marital relationship but one easy way to break his limitation is through the words you speak. Words are spirits and have power. If God did not say in Genesis, “let there be light”, there would never have been light. Watch your utterances concerning your marital relationship. Watch what you say to your partner and your children. Words determine destiny. We all know how Satan came into the world. There was war in heaven. Angel Michael and other Angels fought against Satan, the dragon, defeated him. He was cast into the earth (Revelations 12:7-9). Now, after that, there was a loud voice saying in heaven “Now is come salvation and strength and the kingdom of our God and the power of his Christ; for the accuser of the brethren is cast down, which accused them before our God day and night. And they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb and by the WORD of their testimony, and they loved not their lives unto death” (Revelations 12:10-11).
Don’t curse yourself by saying words like “I am finished” “This pregnancy will kill me” “I have married a useless person” “Why do I have useless children?”, and so on.
Jesus Christ has redeemed us from the curse of the law but he did not remove the curse from existence and there is a window of opportunity to reclaim the curse through your words (Revelation 3:8).
If you are in Christ, you must exercise his authority in words to keep the devil’s access away from your marriage. Avoid statements that give permission to the devil to operate in your marriage. Don’t use words like “foolish” or “useless” for your spouse. The word is a seed. When you sow it, it will definitely germinate. If you believe that the words you say in requesting favour from God can work, then you must believe that other words can work too.
Words are spirits and they can give or remove Satan’s access to your premarital or marital relationship. “Thou art snared with the words of thy mouth. Thou art taken with the words of thy mouth” (Proverbs 6:2). When your relationship is snared with the words of your mouth, you can restore God’s presence with the words of your mouth.
Maybe you have said to your officially married spouse: “This marriage cannot work.” You might have said it when you were angry. You have to cancel or unsay what you have said in prayers. Otherwise, you have given a big license to the devil to operate in that marriage.
“Be ye angry, and sin not; let not the sun go down upon your wrath. Neither give place to the devil” (Ephesians 6:26-27).
Saying sorry alone to your spouse does not cancel the declaration. After saying sorry, you both have to in agreement, pray and cancel the statement. Then, you put back Satan’s limitation of access to that relationship.
The devil can be overcome because he has already been defeated on the cross of Calvary by the Jesus Christ in you but you need to CONFESS with thy mouth, the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead. Then, thou shall be saved. (Romans 10:9).
God keeps appointments with prophesies and prophetic utterances. When prophetic utterances are from God in line with his word, you call them into fulfillment through using your words to claim the written word by faith. When the utterance is not from God, you can bring that negative word into fulfillment in your life, when you agree through your WORD. This is why you must reject and cancel negative words or pronouncements when they are spoken against your marital relationship. Someone comes to you to say: “You know, the husbands we marry these days are not reliable. They are all cheats” “You know the children we have these days are useless children.” You must single out your case and declare: “My own husband is very reliable and cannot cheat on me in Jesus name.”
Don’t join ignoramuses to claim negativity and welcome Satan’s access. The same thing is applicable to you as a husband. Don’t hang around with people that say things like: “You know, our wives these days are lazy and can kill for money” You have to single out your case and exercise your authority in Christ Jesus, using words.
Words are very powerful. As an unmarried person, don’t say: “We ladies can hardly get good husbands these days. Husbands are very scarce. If I can get a man to marry me, I am okay, even if he is a fraudster or smuggler. I don’t care.” Such utterance is not from a child of God. If such pronouncement comes into manifestation, you may not like the actual experience. Do not break Satan’s retrained access to your premarital or marital relationship with your words or utterances.
- YOUR CONDUCT: The only way you can regulate your conduct in such a way that Satan does not have access to your marital relationship is by allowing Jesus Christ to possess your heart as your Lord and saviour and receiving a baptism of the Holy Spirit.
“This I say, walk in the spirit and ye shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh” (Galatians 5:16). Otherwise, you will indulge in the works of the flesh and invite Satan’s covering over your marriage. The works of the flesh include adultery, idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, seditions, envying, murder, drunkenness and so on (Galatians 5:19-21).
Adultery and idolatry are works of the flesh and can break Satan’s limitation of access to your marriage. Idolatry is an open invitation to Satan to come and destroy your marriage. Idolatry means attaching a higher level of love to something else other than God and your marriage. Maybe your husband has a financial challenge that you know about and children’s school fees and house rent have not been paid. Yet, you go about buying expensive clothes for yourself to party. You are an idol worshipper. If as a husband, you spend money to pursue a village chieftaincy title, whereas your family’s feeding, education, shelter and other basics have not been catered for, you are an idol worshipper. If you spend more time on watching and discussing football to the extent that you hardly have time for your wife and children, you are an idol worshipper. Idolatry gives Satan access to operate in a marriage.
“…FOR REBELLION IS LIKE THE SIN OF WITCHCRAFT and stubbornness as iniquity and idolatry” (1st Samuel 15:22-23).
Once you are disobedient to God’s instructions, you are already a witch. “Husbands, love your wife” is a biblical injunction. If you refuse to love your wife, you are a witch because you have disobeyed the instruction. “Wives, submit to your own husbands” is an instruction. If you refuse to obey or comply with it, you are practicisng witchcraft. Witchcraft practice in marriage is an invitation to Satan to come in and operate.
Hatred is the opposite of love. If you hate your spouse, you are God’s enemy because God is love. It is even worse when you bear malice. During the period of that hatred, Satan has already taken over the relationship.
Do not live the life of a chameleon before your spouse. Your spouse should be able to say accurately, who you are, what you can do, and what you cannot do. If this is not the case, there is a variance and variance can give Satan access to smooth operation in your marriage.
Do not compare your marriage with any other person’s own. Your marriage is special and peculiar. When you begin to compare, you will now try to emulate. Emulation is a signal for Satan to come into your marriage. If your neighbour’s wife is the one that always drives her husband’s only car, there may be a reason for this. It is possible the woman bought the car for the husband. It is possible it fits their daily routine arrangements. It is possible the man has a health challenge with driving. There are so many possibilities that you do not know about that couple. It is not your business anyway. So, do not pressurize your husband to give you his only car to drive because you saw that couple. You are not them and they are not you. Emulations bring in Satan to destroy a marriage.
Your neighbour’s husband is always the person that goes to market to do shopping for foodstuff. Do not comment over it. Do not criticize him for doing it. Then, do not beckon on your husband to copy that lifestyle. You do not know why what you see that man do is happening. By the way, it is not a sin, Above all, what is your business? Avoid emulations so that you do not break Satan’s access limitation to your marriage.
Be angry but sin not. Do not let the sun go down on your anger, especially if the offender is your spouse. Be quick to forgive because wrath can break Satan’s limitation.
When you run down your spouse before third parties, you are disgracing yourself because your spouse is you. Avoid seditious statements against your spouse. It can give Satan access to your marriage.
Do not envy or compete with your spouse. If you do that, your marriage is headed for doom. Also, do not murder your spouse, using your words or actions. There are words you must never say to your spouse because they will kill his or her spirit and confidence.
If you have any plan to kill your spouse because you feel you are tired of him or her and need an opportunity to marry someone else, you must come back from your journey of evil imagination because you will surely be exposed. All through history, everyone that committed murder has been punished either by the law of the land, by God himself in his own way, or by both. Taking the life of someone or plotting to do so CAN NEVER solve whatever problems you think you have. It will only create fresh and bigger ones. Murder is an invitation of Satan to the murderer’s destiny.
Anybody that is drunk, loaded with alcohol is not in charge of anything. Drunkenness is an invitation to Satan to take over the marital relationship of the drunk person. I give a simple example. When a man is drunk and dozes off under that state of stupor, a strange man can use that opportunity to take advantage of his wife, right under his nose. This is the kind of thing that happens when Satan’s limitation to a marriage has been broken through drunkenness.
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